April 8th 2013-Mama Tok was blessed with a second grandchild. Its a baby girl.
In 1986, we were blessed with our first child-also a baby girl.
It was a cold, windy winter time in December, in Newcastle-Upon-Tyne in UK. Mama Tok had a rough time adapting with sleepless nights with the baby. The 'pantang time @ confinement' was supposed to be a month of warmth and comfort but due to the poor heating system of our rented house, Mama Tok spent the 'pantang time' shivering most of the time near the gas fire in our small bedroom.
It was not a good experience for every new mum who had just go through the ordeal of birth for the first time. But with the bless from Allah, the good news was we had Mama Tok's parents coming from Malaysia for two weeks to make life easier for us. So for that time being, Mama Tok was treated with 'bertungku, berbengkung, makan jamu - Kelantanis Style' and what a luxury....!
It was a cold, windy winter time in December, in Newcastle-Upon-Tyne in UK. Mama Tok had a rough time adapting with sleepless nights with the baby. The 'pantang time @ confinement' was supposed to be a month of warmth and comfort but due to the poor heating system of our rented house, Mama Tok spent the 'pantang time' shivering most of the time near the gas fire in our small bedroom.
It was not a good experience for every new mum who had just go through the ordeal of birth for the first time. But with the bless from Allah, the good news was we had Mama Tok's parents coming from Malaysia for two weeks to make life easier for us. So for that time being, Mama Tok was treated with 'bertungku, berbengkung, makan jamu - Kelantanis Style' and what a luxury....!
In a cold winter time, a hot 'batu tungku @ a small heated oval shaped stone' which we picked near a coastline did help so much to keep a postnatal mum's veins warm and easy. Somehow that 2 weeks luxury treatments did not manage to recover the 'damage' to the body 100%, and Mama Tok 's parents had to go back to Malaysia since they had other commitments.
Life after birth can be so demanding and exausted without our mums support because only mothers knew the pain of birth suffered by their daughters.
So mums out there..., be ready to work 'overtime' if our daughters are ready for labour. Do ask permission from our beloved husbands so that they understand why we give more attention and spend more time with our daughters during this time.
Cut down on housework as much as you can, leaving any job that don't need immediate attention. Try not to do too much. A bit of dust won't matter for a while, and not everything you wash has to be ironed. Better still, share the housework with your husband. If you have visitors coming, don't feel you have to have everything clean and tidy. The most important thing at times like this is to focus on the health of the new mum and the newly born baby.
Mama Tok Quiet Moment's 'Soup For The Soul'
Our mum gave birth to us and take care of us when we were babies. When we gave birth to our babies, our mum STILL take care of us.
So give our love to our mum while they are still alive, but don't forget our dad.
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother.
The man said, ‘Then who?'
The Prophet said: Then your mother.
The man further asked, ‘Then who?'
The Prophet said: Then your mother.
The man asked again, ‘Then who?'
The Prophet said: Then your father.
(Hadith recorded by Bukhari and Muslim)
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother.
The man said, ‘Then who?'
The Prophet said: Then your mother.
The man further asked, ‘Then who?'
The Prophet said: Then your mother.
The man asked again, ‘Then who?'
The Prophet said: Then your father.
(Hadith recorded by Bukhari and Muslim)
